We recommend the using the “earlier the better” policy. Many parishes require you to start marriage prep at least 6 months in advance. As soon as you are engaged, or even considering engagement, it is the right time to attend a retreat. By attending early, you can discover areas of growth necessary in your relationship, determine if engagement and marriage is right for you and avoid the last-minute hassles of attending a retreat while trying to do everything else your wedding day entails.

Catholic Engaged Encounter is designed to provide couples getting married the tools needed for a successful marriage. The retreat is open to any engaged couple wanting to prepare for a deeper, more meaningful life together in a marriage recognized by the Catholic Church according to Church law.

The cost of the weekend-long retreat is $200 per couple.

A team of married couples and a priest or deacon facilitate and guide the weekend. The design of the weekend encourages the couple to explore mutual strengths and weaknesses, goals, aspirations, and attitudes concerning family life, children, sexuality, finances, the Church and society. The format gives couples the opportunity to talk honestly and intensively about their prospective lives together. After each presentation, the engaged couple is given questions and encouraged to write and dialogue privately. The format does not involve group therapy. The couples are urged to communicate in terms of planning a life-long and life-giving marriage, not only a wedding day celebration.

We suggest you bring the following items with you:

• Wear comfortable casual clothing;
• Personal Items (shampoo, deodorant, tooth paste, etc.)
• Snack to share: cake, or cookies, or chips, and a 2 liter drink of your choice (please no refrigerated snacks).
• Hot/cold mug. (Styrofoam cups are provided)
• You may bring your own pillow as no other is as comfortable as your own.
• Balance due, if not already paid in full.

Please do not bring valuables. Engaged Encounter is not responsible for personal items brought to the weekend.

Check-in for the weekend begins at 7:00 PM on Friday. Please arrive with plenty of time to spare to check in, pay your balance, and find your rooms. The weekend presentations begin promptly at 8:00 PM.

Weekends end Sunday at 3:00 PM.

Copies of the weekend schedule will be posted in the Monastery during the retreat. Each couple will also receive two workbooks to use throughout the retreat. These are yours to keep. The workbook provides an outline of the retreat and topics covered. Due to varying factors, such as meal times, slight differences in presenter’s length on topics, we are unable to provide exact timing of each presentation. Most presentations, individual reflection and couple reflection time total about 60-90 minutes.

YES, it is very important that you stay for the entire retreat. If you arrive late or leave early, you will miss important parts of the retreat experience, and we will not be able to give you your certificate of completion of the retreat.

Yes, we do ask that you observe a few basic rules.

• Please refrain from the use of alcohol and illegal drugs.
• Please respect this is a Catholic retreat – we ask that you dress appropriately. 
• Please remember the weekend is presented at a Catholic facility and be respectful of your surroundings.
• Please do not leave the weekend, for any reason, unless an emergency arises. If you need to leave, please speak to one of the team members.

Dress for the entire weekend is casual. Please dress comfortably. We will attend Mass during the weekend, and we ask that everyone dress appropriately for the chapel. We would prefer that gentlemen not wear shorts in the chapel and that ladies dress conservatively.

Designated, outdoors smoking areas will be indicated during the weekend. We ask that you please not use any tobacco products, electronic cigarettes or vaporizers in interior areas of the facility.

Planning a wedding can be a fun and exciting time. It can also be stressful. Catholic Engaged Encounter is designed to help you focus on your upcoming marriage and what it means to become a sacrament. While couples spend the majority of the retreat together – there is not much free time. The focus of the weekend is mutual discussion on important topics related to marriage. Couples should plan to start their day a little earlier and work a little later than they typically would on an average weekend at home.

Catholic Engaged Encounter offers a weekend-long retreat away from the hustle and bustle of life, where you can focus on each other, your relationship, and what it means to become a sacrament. As such we ask that couples refrain from using electronic devices as much as possible – including cell phones.

No, the purpose of the Catholic Engaged Encounter weekend is to interact with and talk with your fiancé about issues you may not have already discussed. If your fiancé is not present, you will be unable to complete the program.

FOCCUS is not part of the Catholic Engaged Encounter program. The FOCCUS survey should be completed and the results thereof should be discussed with your priest / diocese and representative before you attend the Catholic Engaged Encounter weekend.